I honestly don’t know if summer could get any better. We have had the amazing good fortune of having beautiful weather, incredible friends to hang out with, a cottage to escape to and now a very cool motor boat to start our next chapter in adventures at the lake.
It didn’t start out that way. There was a significant number of times at the start of this year where when we went for a ride , it took an incredible amount of time convincing T to even get in the boat. Then it took a lot to convince him to go faster than a put put pace. My husband and I started looking at each other with a “wow, seriously? Could this be the biggest waste of money we have invested in…ever”. We weren’t sure what to do to get him comfortable with the boat (after all, this is a little man who has an auditory sensitivity to loud noises and we’re asking him to sit in a motor boat for goodness sake!)
All I can say, is that my dear husband gets the most brilliant solution award for this one. I don’t think I give him near enough props for how patient and creative he gets in working with T on challenges/resistance he faces but I am truly impressed with how he handled this one. He made sure T felt like he was in complete control. He talked through what the experience of being on a boat would feel like and then ultimately T would give a thumbs up or thumbs down depending if he felt things were getting a bit fast or not.
It took awhile as T got comfortable and once he was there, we started working on him to think about the 3 person tube we have to go on the back. Same situation, talk it through, start slow, he controls his comfort zone…That started in June and now he loves it when dad goes fast. This is so reflective on what its like every day with #Autism. If you prepare them, talk through what to expect and help them plan for the day. If you don’t give them that framework to understand, more times that not, it’s a disaster.
Just keep talking….
Next up, waterskiing…:)
3 thoughts on “The Summer of New Adventures”
That hubby is brilliant. Good job, all around. XO
That boy couldn’t ask for a better mommy and daddy. You guys rock!! xo K
Hubby response here; We work as a team regarding every aspect of parenting, either through direct contact or indirect support. Who takes the lead is whomever is most comfortable/informed/closest. This whole teamwork thing is a necessity, and needs to be countered by a lot of makeshift ‘date nites’ to counter how weighed down you can get with the day to day. Here is to improvised parenting, dating, and husbandly responsibilities, long may they reign. Love the wife!
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