Change is..good

Something’s going on these days..Our beautiful little guy who was displaying significant “behaviors” relating to ASD has been listening, conversing, even engaging us in his thought patterns. Something that up until now hadn’t been that common. I don’t want to get my hopes up but these days I need a bit of hope. Many friends of ours are announcing that they are close to separation or divorce, I have a couple of friends going through serious medical issues and I myself am trying to figure out a few issues physically that I hope I can get resolved soon.

I’m trying to be more positive. Conscious that when T sees us stressed or upset, it only lends to him getting upset. (Which is never good)..We are still adjusting to the changes this has taken on our life but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is so much about the balance within our family. When we are crazy busy or I’m away on work…he doesn’t do that well..but when we are all here and supporting him- he thrives…and that’s exactly what he did this weekend.

We went to the zoo. (Usually an incredibly stressful situation when I have gone along in the past with my 2 children) but something was different this time. We are trying not to be “NO sayers” and helicopter parents and our kids are starting to listen more. The key…we tried a Trust and Go plan with them yesterday at the zoo. I can see our little guy desperate to establish some independence and we are desperate not to have him run away (a habit that he has demonstrated many times in the past)..so we established rules as soon as we got to the zoo and talked about trust. We gave our T an opportunity to run ahead (which he is desperate to do all the time) and identified markers for him to stop and get a high five…

If you can believe, as much as we weren’t sure about this..it was the best thing for all of us. T got his independence and with a little deep breathing, we learned to chill out a bit and just let him have some fun…

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